Something we all
should have, but I do wonder whether that is true and even how developed it is
in some….
An appeal to
ones inner judgement makes things safer, especially when your course of action
is unclear. You gain time to consider – to improve or confirm your decision. It
brings new grounds for strengthening or supporting your judgement.
You also gain
time to decide the ‘how’ and ‘when’ of saying “NO”. Such maturity of thought
makes the “NO” more acceptable; indeed, after the first white heat of desire
has passed the “NO” is perceived as more acceptable in the cold light of day.
We should never
say “YES” to everything or everybody; knowing how to refuse is just as
important as agreeing; it all depends on the ‘how’. One man’s thoughtful “NO” is often better thought of than the
shallow “YES” of another. OK, there are those who always have a “NO” on their
lips and these people make everything distasteful. A refusal doesn’t have to be
‘point-blank’. There is a case for ‘disagreeing by degrees’. Never let a
refusal be final as that is destructive; allow some space for hope in order to
soften the rejection.
“YES” and “NO”
are quickly said – but leave much to think about….
Until next time
(YES),
Peripatetic
Scribe
I fully agree with you. This blog post reminds me of my Japanese friends and their culture, where they are never to accept an invitation openly and say "yes", but they say "maybe" instead. In this way they are "safe", but it is, of course, also for other reasons. So to your: "Would you like to join us for dinner?", they'd reply "Maybe", which can be a problem if you are a host, but is a perfectly "safe" answer. perhaps the Western World should consider this.
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Lucana