This is the third stage in our development from the infant “I want” through “why?” until we are old enough not to ask those questions but instead project our thoughts and feelings in a different manner.
And this third stage which should be a short one often lasts for the longest period of our life…
“I wish I didn’t have to go to work….”
“I wish I had more money……”
“I wish I was more attractive….”
“I wish I had a better job….”
“I wish I had a better boss….”
The list is never-ending. And I can now say I think this lament is an utter waste of time, energy and nerves! My father once said to me that he felt that this “tune” was stupidity in that those who do it are in fact wishing their lives away; a sentiment I totally agree with.
If you want something, really want it, don’t just wish as this is idle fantasy; go out and DO something about it – it’s your life and if you want something bad enough you will find the energy and will-power to attain whatever it is you “wish” for.
Back on 25 January of last year I wrote about the “blind squirrel syndrome”; if you haven’t read it, take a look as it reinforces what I have said above.
Until next time (and no need for wishes),
Peripatetic Scribe
When I listen to school children I hear this phrase so often. I guess it is something they/we all have to go through....however armed with this blog I shall show them that whilst it may be OK to "sing this song" now, if it continues they are in for many shocks.... Thanks P.S.
ReplyDeleteYou're right, Anonymous....keep them going straight, not wishing their lives away. The quicker they can understand the downside to "wishing" he better adults they will become....
ReplyDeleteI fully agree with this, P.S. Our lives and what we do with them are entirely in our hands. Certainly we cannot fulfill all our wishes, but we can come closer to our ideals if we really do care and if we use all our potential. Also, it is useful to try to understand why we wish for something, as this will tell us a lot about ourselves and our real needs.
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Good point Lucana about knowing ourselves and thus our real needs. I often wonder how many actually DO understand themselves, as if they did, the would behave in a more humane manner in my opinion....
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